The one year angelversary of Julia is quickly approaching. I have wanted to do something in her memory, and to honor the people that work in the field to end the horrible tragedy of miscarriage and stillbirth. Also, to honor the families that silently suffer through miscarriages and stillbirth, and families that are putting every ounce of their being into saving their unborn child(ren).
Looking back, I was fortunate to have such great care and resources to make the decisions we were faced with for both Ava and Julia. Because of this, I believe it is our turn to pay it forward. We have decided to donate to the Fetal Care Center, a part of the Cincinnati Children’s Hospital. This is the place that correctly determined the best path to take for our girls growing inside me at the time, regardless of the fact that they would have made a great case study in a medical journal. Instead of looking at making a name for themselves, they looked at our best interest. I know now that we would not have Ava if it were not for them. Sometimes the best decision is really to let fate decide. I imagine that’s a tough call for a surgeon who the main goal is to try to fix things. It is care and giving like that that deserves an acknowledgement. I have included a link to their online donation and form here if you would like to join us in acknowledging the great work of this hospital and staff.
We are also participating in a Remembrance Ceremony through John Muir hospital of Walnut Creek on October 15th for National Pregnancy and Infant Awareness Month. I feel that it’s necessary to bring awareness to such a lonely grief of losing a baby through miscarriage or still birth. And I'm dragging Rick along for support, because although he doesn't say much, I know he suffers in his own way through all of this. We are both not very "public" people with stuff like this, so it's stepping out of our comfort zone to attend. It would mean a lot to us if your thoughts were with us this day.
Julia is with me in my thoughts every day. It's been particularly tough to plan Ava's first birthday, knowing that Julia isn't physically here to be next to her sister when we sing happy birthday and blow out that candle. It's been hard to create the slideshow like I did for Sophia's first birthday, knowing there are parts intentionally left out for all of our well being. But it's also been a healing process that I'm forcing myself to face head on. And I know there will be a lot of good that will come out of our tragedy, with work yet to do for people that are faced with situations like or unlike ours that are working to make sense of it all. So for this year, it's a start for things to come to honor Julia's memory.
Looking back, I was fortunate to have such great care and resources to make the decisions we were faced with for both Ava and Julia. Because of this, I believe it is our turn to pay it forward. We have decided to donate to the Fetal Care Center, a part of the Cincinnati Children’s Hospital. This is the place that correctly determined the best path to take for our girls growing inside me at the time, regardless of the fact that they would have made a great case study in a medical journal. Instead of looking at making a name for themselves, they looked at our best interest. I know now that we would not have Ava if it were not for them. Sometimes the best decision is really to let fate decide. I imagine that’s a tough call for a surgeon who the main goal is to try to fix things. It is care and giving like that that deserves an acknowledgement. I have included a link to their online donation and form here if you would like to join us in acknowledging the great work of this hospital and staff.
We are also participating in a Remembrance Ceremony through John Muir hospital of Walnut Creek on October 15th for National Pregnancy and Infant Awareness Month. I feel that it’s necessary to bring awareness to such a lonely grief of losing a baby through miscarriage or still birth. And I'm dragging Rick along for support, because although he doesn't say much, I know he suffers in his own way through all of this. We are both not very "public" people with stuff like this, so it's stepping out of our comfort zone to attend. It would mean a lot to us if your thoughts were with us this day.
Julia is with me in my thoughts every day. It's been particularly tough to plan Ava's first birthday, knowing that Julia isn't physically here to be next to her sister when we sing happy birthday and blow out that candle. It's been hard to create the slideshow like I did for Sophia's first birthday, knowing there are parts intentionally left out for all of our well being. But it's also been a healing process that I'm forcing myself to face head on. And I know there will be a lot of good that will come out of our tragedy, with work yet to do for people that are faced with situations like or unlike ours that are working to make sense of it all. So for this year, it's a start for things to come to honor Julia's memory.
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